On Monday I returned to work after 12 wonderful weeks with my new daughter Stella. The time had flown by so quickly, and I couldn’t believe that she was already 3 months old.
I was nervous. I was used to my new routine and was worried I had forgotten how to speak to adults, but I was equally excited to see my lovely colleagues and students again.
So, what have I learnt?
- Team work. Whatever you do, it’s always helpful to know that you’re not alone and to have a strong support system. As a parent, I know I have family and friends to turn to if ever I feel overwhelmed. As an employee, surrounded by caring, dynamic and inspirational people motivates me to do my best.
- There’s no shame in needing and asking for help. As a working mother especially, I feel there is a lot of pressure to manage my home and work life simultaneously and it’s difficult. Nobody is perfect but asking for and accepting help can only make me stronger.
- Take your time. Progress is still progress, and with patience you can achieve many things. You don’t become bilingual in one day and you don’t suddenly become the world’s greatest parent as soon as your baby is born. I am proud of every achievement, big or small and working hard for something only makes the result more satisfying.
- Self-worth. It was only when my older daughter pointed out my roots were showing that I realised I had not thought about myself as a person for the past year. I had been an oven for 9 months and a milk dispenser for the next 3. After taking a little time for myself, I felt less stressed, more confident, and ready to face the world.
It’s for that reason that I plan on taking any training opportunity I have this year, to improve my skills and make me a better-rounded person (but with a flatter tummy!).